(Although this article was written with the U.S. holiday of Thanksgiving in mind, but it is applicable year-round!)

With Thanksgiving upon us here in the U.S. we are offered the opportunity to elevate our understanding of gratitude: what it is, what we are grateful for, and what we are NOT grateful for.

This holiday is lovely in concept, but as a life coach I can tell you that the reality is not always so wonderful. Rather than being an opportunity to connect with our blessings, this day often becomes a catalyst that stirs emotions regarding tricky family dynamics, the pressures of expectations, and other less than celebratory issues.

No matter what “thanksgiving” means to you, whether you are celebrating the holiday or not, I’d like to highlight the power of gratitude in a way that escapes many. And it is this:

Oftentimes, the very thing that you need to change an undesired
circumstance in your life is GRATITUDE for that very circumstance.

Yes! This is completely counter-intuitive. Why would you give thanks for “bad luck,” misfortune, or adversity of any kind? Because if you don’t, there’s a pretty good chance that you are resisting it in one way or another, even if you think you are “going with the flow” or surrendering. Anything other than outright gratitude for your misfortune, may mean that at best, you are keeping the situation in a holding pattern, and at worst, you are magnifying it by fighting against it. What you resist persists, right?

Why Gratitude for Adversity works:

Giving and receiving are one and the same. They are part of a constant flow. When we give, we are participating in the Universe’s eternal flow of abundance. When we receive we are also participating in that flow. Abundance and well-being are NOT states of having. They are states of participating in the flow.

Whether we’re talking about money, relationships or health, you must join in the movement of energy. Everything is energy. Money is energy. Relationships are exchanges of energy. And health is the flow of life force energy within you.

Because the nature of the Universe is infinite abundance and well-being, it is consistently offering you all that you could need or want. However (and this is a big however) we judge what the Universe gives us. If we lose our job, we judge it as bad. If a situation doesn’t go our way, we judge it as bad. If we have to spend money we didn’t want to spend, we judge it as bad.

Every time you judge something as bad, two counterproductive things happen:

1) You called it “bad” and because you are a powerful creator, you MUST now experience it as bad, because that is all that you will allow into your experience, and
2) You’ve resisted it, which is a way of giving the very thing you don’t want lots of attention (i.e. energy) which simply magnifies the thing you don’t want.

This scenario is the very scenario that keeps us stuck and perpetuating what we don’t want for eternity! That is until, we change the scenario.

How do you do this?

1) Suspend judgment. When something bad happens refrain from the impulse to call it “bad” and instead tell yourself, “I suspend judgment. It is what it is. I’m willing to remember that Source is Well-Being. I remain open and receptive to this well-being.”
2) Then (and I know this is a big leap, but it works!) GIVE THANKS! Based on your willingness to trust that Source is giving you a blessing, even if you can’t see it or understand how your situation could possibly be a good thing, declare to yourself, “I give grateful thanks for this. I am willing to believe that there is good here, even if I can not perceive it, even if it feels bad or scary. I am willing to remain open and receive the blessings the Universe is offering me. I receive the good that is here right now!”

Giving thanks for the very misfortune you wish to reject is tantamount to waving a magic wand of transformation over the situation. This is because…

1) It is impossible to resist something and give thanks for it at the same time. So, any resistance that existed dissipates, and any power the negative situation had dissolves.
2) When you give thanks you are officially receiving. The Universe has been trying to give you something and now you’ve officially received. You have participated in the flow and now the energy of abundance and well-being can move through your life. If you do not receive what the Universe is trying to give you, it will keep trying to give it to you until you receive it. This is because that’s what the Universe does. It gives. It offers. It expands.

When you suspend judgment of what the Universe is giving you, then you can see the blessing. The blessing might be a new perspective, a lesson, an opportunity (maybe you had to let something go in order to receive something better). You may not see the blessing or understand it until sometime in the future. But if you move forward in trust, and receive what you’re being given, it will reveal itself.

Giving thanks when it feels good, or we’ve received what we want is easy, and yes it is expansive. But, giving thanks when it doesn’t feel good, or we can’t see the blessing – now that is downright transformational. You DO have the power to transform your situation. The question is, will you rise above your knee-jerk reactions to summon the creative well-spring of power within you.

Willingness.
Faith in goodness.
And a commitment to a better way.

It starts and continues here.

To learn more about the subtle nuances and advanced principles that make all the difference in harnessing the power of the Law of Attraction, consider picking up a copy of my book, “The Attraction Distraction: Why the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working for You and How to Get Results-Finally!” 

Christine has utilized numerous Success for the Soul services over the past few years to keep growing, expanding and making her dreams come true. For long-time Soul Food and blog subscribers you may remember her from when she left an unsatisfying job in corporate America to open her dream consignment store (click here to read an earlier success story).

More recently Christine completed her six month group coaching commitment (a predecessor program to the Ultimate Manifestation System Boot Camp) and we celebrated together a whole new level of success, fulfillment and growth!

“Sonia, in the past six months I have learned so much! With Source as my source, I can live and experience peace, love, joy and hope in the face of the same situations that were causing the constant anxiety. I’m living from flow, faith and joy which allows me to let go of attachment to specific outcomes. There is a shift in the way I am holding money – I’m more relaxed about and more trusting that there will always be enough.

As a result all sorts of abundance has manifested in my life and in my business! I found 2 great employees that are perfect for my business. I’m now able to spend 2 ½ days out of the store every week, with a lot more flexibility in my schedule.  Had 2 wildly successful events in my store. Am now paying myself from SISTERS earnings (a big milestone for any new business venture!). Took 6 trips away since January. And I have more connection to my community through events and joining women’s club.

My work with you has helped me grow into a new way of “being.” I feel more peaceful and joyful. I’m much more relaxed about my business, trusting that source is providing. And I live from a new place of service, feeling grateful all the time!

I can’t thank you enough Sonia! I so look forward to continuing the journey with you and allowing the next level of abundance to flow through and expand my life freely!”

Christine Johnson, Proprietor
SISTERS Consignment Couture
Sonoma, California, USA

If you’d like to learn more about how Success for the Soul can help you make your dreams come true, contact Executive Manager, Chris at Chris@Successforthesoul.com or 503-961-1228.
Please note: There are just a few 2009 private coaching slots left before the programs and fee structures change for 2010. We are currently accepting applications for a very limited number of complimentary Get to Know sessions with Sonia. Contact Chris for more information.

Well, this week the theme is “Acting As If” and it has been coming through loud and clear.  Two days ago I taught Lesson #4, “Maximize Your Action,” of the  Ultimate Manifestation System Boot Camp.  One of the five guidelines I teach is the principle of “Acting As If.” 

And just now I completed a coaching call with a client who, as we burrowed down to where she was stuck, became clear that she was holding back from really claiming her power.  She knew who and how she needed to BE.  This bigger, grander version of herself was already within her, but she was “hiding out.”  I suggested she give the “bigger her” a name, and to practice calling her out by name when she felt herself shrinking.  Instantly she knew.  When she was playing small, she was “being Susie.”  But when she was owning her power she was “being Susan.” 

Then what arrives in my inbox today?  And article on “Acting As If” from one of my favorite entrepreneur coaches!  Of course!  And so, with her permission, I pass it along to you.  Whether you use this principle in business or in your personal life, it is powerful stuff – and it works!  Enjoy!

Choose YOUR Reality!tm

Sonia

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How To Activate the “Law of AS IF …” In Your Business
by Heather Dominick
EnergyRICH® Entrepreneur Success  & Master Coach

Remember the story of the “Little Engine That Could”? This little train had always pulled small loads, but one day it was called upon to deliver something greater. First, it had a hard time getting the load to move at all so it cheered itself on by puffing, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can …” The load began to move and then natural momentum began to take over at the top of the hill and it was pulled forward -smoothly and easily …” Ahhh – such a nice story, isn’t it?

Think your business is any different?

Well, your answer says a lot about whether it is … or it isn’t.

In order to accomplish anything, you have to think and act AS IF you can. When you behave as if a task is possible, existing laws come into effect to help you. And here’s a major EnergyRICH® Insider Secret Tip for you: when you reach the point of behaving AS IF the action were already accomplished, you receive even more help!

Consider this: The “Law of AS IF …” has been activated by great achievers of all times and situations. Barbra Streisand was told that her voice was not suited for large audiences … however she behaved AS IF and even though large venues still scare her – she has performed to the largest sold out audiences of all times. Christopher Columbus behaved AS IF he could sail from Spain to India … Alexander Graham Bell behaved AS IF he could talk through a device to someone in another room … You don’t really think you and your business are any different do you? Or Do You?

Well, what I’ve come to understand is that most entrepreneurs do activate the Law of AS IF … as if they can’t do it. A lot of energy is invested in all the reasons why something won’t work:

· “I don’t have the time …”

· “I don’t have the money …”

· “Others in my field/city/country don’t do it this way …”

· “It will take too much work …”

· “It’s a bad time of year …”

· “I need to learn more …”

· “If only my parents/spouse/the lottery would give me money …”

The Law is activated, but the energy is being directed away from what they say they want. So there is an energy mis-match, but the Law doesn’t know this. It’s just following the natural, energetic flow of the science that created it.

I learned how to turn this around for myself in a big way and to really have this Law working for me:

I behaved AS IF I could find an affordable apartment in Manhattan. Did it.

I behaved AS IF I could find true-love after 30. Did it.

I behaved AS IF I could make a high 6-figure living as a coach. Doing it.

I now hold the energy of the Law of AS IF for all EnergyRICH® Clients and EnergyRICH® Business Boot Campers and teach specific techniques and tools that has each EnergyRICH® Entrepreneur activating this for themselves as a consistent part of the growth of their business.

What is it about this Law that works?

Some may say it enlists the aid of the subconscious mind and I sense this is part of it, but I also sense that there is something HUGE at work here. When you feel a desire to do or to be something you haven’t done or been before, you are responding to a divine idea pushing toward manifestation. When you consciously resolve to take action toward realization of that desire, you mentally CLAIM your good. When you behave AS IF you can accomplish your desire, you totally believe that it will be fulfilled. Total belief is active belief including both mental acceptance of the idea and positive action upon it. That’s it. AND such belief both springs from and activates faith — the mightiest power of all.

See, here’s the thing: You are designed not only to contemplate divine ideas, but also to manifest them. So when you make a tiny effort of your own, just as the Little Engine did, you find one law after another coming to your aid.

Now, again, remember this: do not misuse the AS IF Law. It operates whether you use it consciously or not. So, if you behave AS IF something not so great exists – that works too. Get it? And either way the Law is contagious. Other energies respond to the activation of the Law of AS IF – always, no matter what. So, imagine, what contagiously would happen (more clients, more money, more freedom…) when you acted AS IF with …

· Your EnergyRICH® Prospect to Profits Process™

· Your clients and customers

· Your marketing

· Your business vision

· and more …

How do you CHOOSE to activate the Law of AS IF for YOU?

Heather Dominick, is founder of the EnergyRICH® Success System for Entrepreneurs, the proven step-by-step program to help you partner your inner and outer approach to business for profitable productivity that is fused with JOY! To sign up for her freebie how-to articles and no-charge teleclasses on how to create an EnergyRICH® Business as a WomenPreneur, visit www.energyrichcoach.com

Given enough attention, a lower-level vibration of resistance or irritation can become highly magnetic, pulling to you even more lower-level experiences. On the flip side the vibration of appreciation, given enough attention, can snowball into a truly blessed day.

This type of situation not only applies to specific circumstances, but to your general way of being. There’s a saying, “How you are anywhere is how you are everywhere.” In other words, your basic state of being IS your vibration. And so, if you want to shed light on what’s holding you back in a particular area of life, try this simple, yet powerful experiment:

1) Pick 2 very specific areas of your life where you struggle (i.e. my relationship with John, my inability to make more than $30,000 per year, my food/body issues, my work situation, etc.).

a) The first area of life should be the one that baffles you – the one for which you are seeking insight.

b) The second area of life should be one where your challenges are really obvious to you – the one where your reactions are right at the surface (i.e. a person or personality type that drives you crazy!)

2) With your attention on (b), make a list of all the ways you struggle. Simply get it all out of your system without censorship. Once you’re done. Pick the top three ways you struggle – the ones that have the most charge.

3) Then from those top three, explore how those challenges might apply to (a), the area of life for which you are seeking new insight.

For example, let’s say that you are trying to figure out where you need to grow next in the realm of relationships, but no matter how you look at things, you can’t quite figure out what’s in your way. However, when it comes to money, your issues and areas of resistance are loud and clear. Take some time to explore how you feel about money (i.e. I’m scared of it, there’s never enough, I can’t count on it to be there, I can’t get ahead, I feel out of control with it, I’m irresponsible…) Then take what you discover and see how it might apply to your relationships.

If you’re having trouble connecting the dots, don’t worry, the answers will come, if you remain open. Say to yourself and the Universe, “I’m willing to discover a higher truth. I’m willing to see things with clarity.” If need be, walk away from the exercise. Often times the “Aha’s” will come to you when you stop trying so hard. And when the insights come, say “Thank you!” to your soul and let your newfound wisdom guide you in taking your next steps toward your personal growth.

Choose YOUR Reality! tm

Sonia

If you’re new to this exercise the common response is, “There’s NO reflection! We couldn’t be more different.” Ahhh, but there’s the key. There is ALWAYS a reflection because it is impossible to recognize something in our outside world that does not already exist in our inner world. The reflection may not always be obvious, but it IS there. If you can’t find it at first glance, oftentimes the reflection can be found in the polar opposite.

For example, my buttons get REALLY pushed by people I consider narcissistic or arrogant. When I recently looked for the reflection in myself I thought, “Geez… the last thing I want people to think is that I’m selfish. I go out of my way NOT to appear that way.” But the truth is that in my own struggle to overcome my “not good enough” demons, I can indeed find myself making it “all about me.” This happens when I worry too much about whether or not “I’m delivering.” This focus on whether or not I’m performing well keeps the attention on me. The self-focus and analysis gets in my way of truly serving. It blocks me from opening up to allow the bigger me – my connection to Source – to express through me.

Powerful stuff wouldn’t you say? Well, this concept of reflection plays out at an even bigger level, too. It just so happens that where we struggle in one area of life can be seen in other areas of life. Everything is connected!

And so it is with this as my latest source of inspiration that I look so forward to teaching my final tele-class in the series, 3 Secrets to Blowing the Lid off of Stuckness and Self-Sabotage. Although in this third class, our focus is “Manifesting Health and Well-Being,” I’ll be talking about how everything is connected. Come discover how your health and body issues play out everywhere in your life – your relationships, your money issues, your job satisfaction – everywhere!

Choose Your Reality! Tm

Sonia

When something seemingly bad or scary happens, FIRST, take the time to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  In other words, get your head on straight.  Don’t launch into problem-solving in a state of panic.  Get grounded first.  Then, open your mind to solutions.

That being said, sometimes just knowing WHAT solutions and resources are out there, is the best medicine for calming down.  Knowing that there IS help and that you’re NOT alone can do wonders for raising one’s vibration.

Well, I came across one such great resource while surfing my twitter stream.  (I’m actually a bit amazed that I found use out of twitter because despite everything I was hearing, I was really wondering, “Why am I doing this?”  Well, I guess patience paid off.)  I clicked on a re-tweeted link (thanks @AlexKaris) and found, www.mashable.com’s 30+ Websites to Visit When You’re Laid Off.

You all probably know that I’m not a fan of putting any attention on “bad news,” but the reality is that a lot of people have lost their jobs.  And so, this seemed like the perfect opportunity to offer my favorite approach to tough situations: a blend of metaphysical AND motivational wisdom. 

If you’ve lost a job, or are facing any other type of adversity, the best approach is a multi-dimensional one.  Yes!  Be still, honor those emotions and release them, get clear about what you want, listen and watch for signs.  THEN… take action. 

Inspired action is infinitely more powerful and effective than willful action or fear-based-reactive action.  Try it out.

Choose YOUR Reality! tm

Sonia

To catch you up…  on December 3rd of last year, a major source of predictable income evaporated suddenly.  Instead of retreating toward fear, my husband and I decided to take the event as an opportunity to polish off our LOA tool kit, "remodel" our lives, and "upgrade" our relationship with money.  (What can I say, I’m a sucker for "metaphors"…)

Holy Abundant Source, BATMAN!  I can’t (well I can, but wow!) believe the amazing abundance that has unfolded. 

• My husband, Chris has stepped in as my full-on business partner!  "Having an assistant" was on my manifest list, but, as usual, the Universe delivered more than I could imagine!  I asked for someone I could trust, competent, takes the initiative, believes in me and my work, watches out for me, collaborative, and fun creative… and… Well, I got more than an assistant, along with all of these qualities and more!
• My business is expanding like a big cosmic balloon – new clients, new programs, new opportunities…and  
• Not only has Chris’ income been covered consistently, but we have lots of extra cash in the bank.  I gave up CONTROL.  I used to know where every penny came from and went.  He’s now doing all of the bookkeeping and periodically shows me the check book balance and I keep saying, "How did THAT happen?!  This is crazy!" Crazy good!

So, I offer this to all of you, who are experiencing changes in your work or money lives (as I know many of you are).  Now more than ever the external influences of limiting beliefs and fear MUST be met with a reinforced and strengthened belief and focus on Source.  Source is your ONLY Source.  EVERYTHING in our external world is an illusion.  If you make it your #1 priority to be open to this concept, study it, contemplate it, practice it, digest it, meditate on it, and affirm it…  this truth will set you free to be in this world, but not of it.

How is it that Chris and I are manifesting this?  Well, the LOA tool kit is absolutely part of it.  You can review what I’ve covered so far using these links:

CLICK HERE for Intro

CLICK HERE for Tool #1

CLICK HERE for Tool #2

CLICK HERE for Tool #3

…And so, with all this as backdrop, let’s continue exploring my LOA Tool Kit… 

My #4 Law of Attraction tool for soothing panic is…

Keep Giving

When we think or feel that the world around is contracting, or shrinking, or that we are losing something, the human knee-jerk reaction is to WITHRAW.  We withdraw our trust.  We withdraw ourselves into some kind of symbolic fetal position; we might take up hiding in our homes, or cancel social or volunteer commitments, or as is very often the case with money, we may feel the need to stop giving and start hoarding.  Energetically speaking, this is the most counter productive thing you can do. 

When something in your physical reality has been taken away, on a human level you may experience loss.  However, on a neutral, energetic level, you have RELEASED something and a void has presented itself.  VOIDS ARE GOOD, because the Universe abhors a vacuum and will instantaneously rush in to FILL the void.  BUT,  you have to decide what the void will be filled with. 

If, in response to the void you perpetuate the energy of fear, scarcity, not enough-ness, and lack, the void will be filled with manifestations and experiences which match that vibration.  If, however, you TRUST in the void.  Say to yourself, "Okay!  When one door closes another bigger, better one opens.  I’m going to trust that something even better is on the way."  And you perpetuate the vibration of abundance, trust, willingness, openness and possibility, the void will be filled with manifestations and experiences which match THAT vibration. 

So, when fear makes you want to stop giving: money, time, attention, trust… the BEST thing you can do is to KEEP GIVING.  How much you give is not as important as that you give.

Start by giving yourself the time and space to accept and honor your emotional reactions to the perceived loss.  Let yourself be afraid, take a little time to panic if you must, even a mini freak-out is fine.  But do so with the intention of releasing and then moving on to more productive energetic efforts.  THEN find ways to give.  Give Source your trust.  Give of your money, whatever you can.  Give with the understanding that ALL you have comes from Source.  When  you give you are simply contributing to the eternal flow of Source in your life.  When you pull back your giving you STOP the flow.  Not good.  When experiencing a void it is more important than ever to nourish the flow.  Give of your time.  Give of your talent.  Whatever you do.  Keep giving.

When Chris and I lost our steady income in December, we kept giving in faith and trust.  I firmly believe that this is what kept Source’s infinite flow going, even though a particular channel dried up.  And, as we continued to experience Source not only taking care of us, but giving us MORE than we needed, I felt guided to increase our tithing.  We had never quite attained the full 10%.  It was scary to go there.  But I knew that my next step was to finally release the illusion that my physical reality was our source of supply.  It was finally time to 100% surrender to Source.  To trust.  So, I wrote down the equivalent of 10% of a recent flow of income: $381.  Wow.  Could I really tithe this much all at once?  I didn’t even write the check.  I just wrote in in the register.  What happened?  The NEXT DAY, Chris reconciled our books and showed me three new deposits.  One of them was for exactly $380.  (And the other two were much larger!)  I took it as the sign I had asked for.  "Okay. I get it God.  I’m tithing the full 10% from now on.  YOU ARE MY SOURCE."

Next time you feel panicked about a channel of income drying up in your life, remind yourself, "That’s okay.  It is not my source.  There is only ONE Source and infinite channels!  I remain open to an even more abundant flow filling this void."  Then give.  KEEP GIVING.  And stay open.

Choose Your Reality!

Sonia

For more help on cultivating this kind of empowering relationship with Source Energy as YOUR Source of all supply, consider picking up a copy of my book, "The Attraction Distraction: Why the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working for You and How to Get Results-Finally!"

]]> http://successforthesoul.com/my-law-of-attraction-tool-kit-4-practice-for-soothing-panic/421/feed/ 0 http://successforthesoul.com/law-of-attraction-the-only-questions-you-should-ever-ask/408/ http://successforthesoul.com/law-of-attraction-the-only-questions-you-should-ever-ask/408/#comments Tue, 27 Jan 2009 19:18:36 +0000 Sonia Miller http://successforthesoul.com/law-of-attraction-the-only-questions-you-should-ever-ask/408/ Where Does Your Mind Go?

When you’re trying to figure something out, when something goes wrong, when you’re stuck… where does your mind go?  It usually starts searching.  It asks questions.  Questions like:

~ WHY is this happening?

~ HOW do I fix this?

~ WHERE is the money going to come from?

~ WHAT am I doing wrong?

But if you want to be the powerful co-creator that you are, there is only ONE question you should ever ask: “WHAT do I want?”

Be Careful About Questions

You need to be careful about questions.  Although they can be powerful tools for analytical problem solving, they are often limited in their capacity to affect real change in your life.  This is because, from a Law of Attraction perspective, answers do not flow from the questions you ask.  Instead answers flow from the intentions you set.  Why?  Because the energy that gives life to everything in this Universe is summoned when we put our attention on it.

Metaphysically speaking, when you ask questions, two very unproductive things can happen:

1) you default to a very limited intelligence to solve your problems (i.e. your mind), and

2) you put your attention on either the problem, OR the only solutions your mind can conceive of.

Where Answers Come From

Answers come from a place other than your mind.  Answers come when your mind rests for a while.  Certainly you’ve heard and experienced the ‘sleep on it’ phenomenon.  Or you’ve noticed that after long periods of analysis, an insight appears only after you’ve let it all go?  The answer didn’t come from your mind.  Instead, unbeknownst to you, your intention was launched in the midst of your mental gymnastics, and when you finally created the space, the answer came from Source itself.

Since like attracts like, when you put your attention on the problem, it serves only to energize the very problem you seek to resolve.  When, however, you suspend your questioning and instead set forth your intention for a desired solution, the Universe’s creative energy is summoned to take form as the solution you seek.  You don’t have to know how to solve the problem.  You need only identify the solution you want.

Let’s say you lose your job.  The common reaction is to start searching for answers – questioning, strategizing… What am I going to do now?  Where can I find a job in this recession?  How are we going to pay our bills?  All this does is put lots of energy on the very things you don’t want: joblessness, powerlessness, and unpaid bills.  However, a much more effective path to solutions would call for practicing “pause.”  In other words, simply stop spinning the mental gerbil wheel.  Ask yourself, “What do I want here?” And, once you know, declare it to yourself and the Universe… I’m willing to have our financial needs met in the best possible way.  I’m ready to be guided to the perfect job easily.  I choose to stay open to unexpected, prosperous opportunities. This strategy activates the infinite creative power within you, and summons Universal life force energy on behalf of your intentions.

Wield Your Power

Now here’s the thing.  Although this is the way to harness the power of the mind, the mind isn’t enough.  You must summon the power of your emotions as well.  The mind gives form to your intention.  The emotions, however, magnetize your intention and influence the quality of your manifestation.  If you set an intention, but are riddled with fear, you will magnetize your intention with fear.  If you set an intention with anger, your intention will be distorted by the anger.  Your emotions determine how open you will be to solutions.  And so, once you’ve identified what it is that you want, take some time to become receptive to it.

If you’re struggling with fear, insecurity or doubt, understand that you can’t talk yourself out of these feelings or push them away.  What you resist persists.  The only way to shift your emotional energy is to say “yes” to it.  By allowing it to be – to come up and come out – it will release.   You can ask, "What do I want?" in reference to your emotional state, as well.  Declare that to yourself and the Universe.  I’m willing to release all of my fears.  I’m ready to be totally receptive to infinite good.  I choose to suspend judgment and doubt.  Then you’re ready to move on to solutions.

The mind is a powerful thing.  It can be your own worst enemy, or it can be the architect of miracles beyond your imagination.  But like fire, you must decide how you will wield its power – for destruction or for illumination.  Choose YOUR reality!

]]> http://successforthesoul.com/law-of-attraction-the-only-questions-you-should-ever-ask/408/feed/ 2 http://successforthesoul.com/my-law-of-attraction-tool-kit-practice-2-for-soothing-panic/343/ http://successforthesoul.com/my-law-of-attraction-tool-kit-practice-2-for-soothing-panic/343/#comments Sat, 20 Dec 2008 03:02:54 +0000 Sonia Miller http://successforthesoul.com/my-law-of-attraction-tool-kit-practice-2-for-soothing-panic/343/ I’m back.  Sorry for these long delays.  I really did plan on cranking the 6 practices of my tool kit out quickly, but life has been full!  So, let’s just jump in….

My #2 Law of Attraction tool for soothing panic is…

CONTEMPLATE THE TRUE NATURE OF SOURCE ENERGY

Here’s the bottom line:  The degree to which you can feel peaceful amidst the storm is directly related to how much you believe that what is happening around you is "real". 

When life gives your a "reality check," do you ever just STOP and ask yourself, "what is reality anyway?"

Our minds never tell us the whole truth about what reality is.  The stock market crashes.  That’s reality.  Your husband loses his job.  That’s reality.  There are people starving all over the world.  That is reality.  Innocent people die in wars.  That’s reality.  And YES!  It is all reality, but it is ONLY ONE reality! 

These are the realities we perceive with our five senses.  These are the realities our ego-mind holds on to in order to survive.  Why does our ego-mind want to survive?  Because it is a very important part of who we are and what we came to earth to do.  Our ego is that part of us that wants to believe it is separate from Source.  A part of us needs to believe we are separate from Source so that we can react to the world around us, determine preferences for what we want and don’t want to experience, and CREATE from that point of preference.  Because we CAME HER TO CREATE.  We are creators!

What does this all mean?  It means that there is another reality that co-exists with the events of our physical experience.  And this other reality is our spiritual reality.  It is an energetic reality.  It is higher truth.  Just as Eric Butterworth, author of "Spiritual Economics" teaches us through his analogy regarding a flat earth versus a round earth: we may look around and experience the reality of a flat world.  We see the flat horizon.  We walk on a flat land.  People in Australia don’t live upside down.  And yet, when we look at our world from a broader, larger perspective, we see that it is actually round.  Our perception and experience of the world as flat has nothing to do with the reality that it is round.

And so it is with the things that would cause us to become afraid or panic.  The spiritual reality is that the only thing that is real is Source Energy.  All That Is is Source Energy.  I am Source.  You are Source.  Our lives are Source.  Our relationships are Source.  Everything is Source.  And the BEST NEWS is that Source is EVERYTHING we could ever want it to be.  Source is love, well-being, infinite prosperity, freedom, health, joy.  Source is INFINITE goodness and wisdom in every way – beyond human understanding.  This is the true nature of Source.  This is the true nature of reality.  You simply might not be able to see it because you’re standing on the "flat earth" and not the moon. There was a time that the mere thought that the earth was round and that we were not the center of the Universe incited panic, fear and imprisonment.  But after enough evidence, study, contemplation and collective agreement, we now KNOW that the earth is round and couldn’t be more grounded and peaceful in that truth.

The process is the same for the opportunity to arrive at a calm, peaceful KNOWING that ALL IS WELL, and that there is more than enough.  With enough evidence, study, contemplation and collective agreement with others who KNOW this to be true, you consciousness can ultimately relax into a deep spiritual knowing of the higher truth.

When it comes to soothing panic or fear when something happens in my life, I turn to God.  I put ALL of my attention on Source Energy and my TOP priority becomes NOT, "What do I do now," but "How to I continue to open my mind, my heart, and my body to the TRUTH.  That I AM infinite love, well-being and abundance.  That my life is this.  That the world is this.  That this is all around me right now?"  When I get scared I contemplate the TRUE NATURE OF SOURCE.

How?  I immerse myself in anything and everything that I think holds truth.

~I read, read, read spiritual truth from spiritual teachers.

~I listen, listen, listen to audio recordings of teaching from spiritual teachers.

~I pray, pray, pray.

~I affirm, affirm, affirm.

~I visualize..

~I talk to people more connected to Source than me.

~I ask others to pray with me.

~I get coaching.

~I release emotions so that my inner truth is free to flow.

And so I encourage you to try the same.  When fear or panic grabs you, turn all of your attention on Source and study, explore and contemplate the true nature of Source – to the exclusion of all else!

Choose Your Reality! tm

Sonia

My #1 Law of Attraction tool for soothing panic is…

STAYING IN THE NOW

Now then before I jump into the details of this concept let me just say a word about getting the LOA tool kit to work for you.  That word is DISCIPLINE.

Discipline. Discipline. Discipline.

The level of comfort and power that you get from the tool kit will be in direct correlation to the level of commitment and discipline that you exercise.  If you simply dabble in the six techniques, you might get some occasional relief, but you may also miss the powerful and transformational opportunity to really make lemons out of lemonades (metaphysically speaking).  If, however, you use the tool kit with steadfast commitment, not only will your panic be soothed, but you will be guided out of whatever storm is present into greater possibilities than you could ever imagine.

You always have a choice about how you react to the conditions of your life.  However, when life gets particularly scary.  When things happen that activate sheer panic and distress there is a lot more at stake with your choice.  If you let your fears and limiting beliefs get the best of you, they’ll get the best of you and you will indeed manifest your worst fears and most limiting beliefs. 

If,  however, you remember that RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW, IN YOUR SITUATION, SOURCE ENERGY IS EXPRESSING ITS INFINITE WELL-BEING AND ABUNDANCE,;and you exercise your CHOICE to nurture and cultivate thoughts and emotions in alignment with THIS truth; then ultimately you will be guided past the seeming ‘bad’ conditions of your life to EXPERIENCE this highest truth in a very personal way.

All this being said, let’s talk about STAYING IN THE NOW.

As a recap:

Less than a week ago we got word of a big, sudden change in our financial situation.  As is the case for many people, this is certainly not the first time this has happened to me or my husband and it certainly won’t be the last.  But the good news is that I’ve learned a thing or two, and react very differently today than I would have in the past. 

A very common reaction to this kind of event is to begin fretting about the future.  The mind goes into overdrive trying to anticipate where the money will come from, how we will pay our bills, what’s going to happen. 

This is both highly stressful and only serves to create more of what you don’t want.  Because in all of this future fantasizing, you are actually, very powerfully emitting a vibration of lack, scarcity, fear and limitation.  And given that like attracts like… if you do this long enough you’ll attract your very worst fears.

In response to this, what I do is this:  every time my mind "goes there," I simply STOP, BREATHE, AND COME BACK TO THE PRESENT MOMENT.

Then I practice a little self talk REMINDING MYSELF of the following truths.

RIGHT NOW, I’m fine.

Right now, all is well.

Right now, we have money. We have food. We have shelter. I have productive work. I have friends. I have family. I have support.  We are all healthy…

You get the picture… on and on, reminding myself that RIGHT NOW ALL IS TRULY WELL.

Why is this so powerful and important.  Several reasons.

#1  – You’ll feel better because you are focusing on the positive truth, rather than a fabricated "non-reality".

#2 – In focusing on the positive truth of all that is in your life, you emit the vibration of "I have a good and positive life," attracting more of THAT in your experience.

#3 – The only "place" to experience Source is in the NOW.  You can’t connect with Source in the future.  The future is always in the future.  It is never here.  Same with the past.  But right here, right now, is SOURCE.  And Source is infinite well-being and abundance.  Each time you come into the NOW, you are communing with the energy of ALL THAT IS.  Each time you come into the NOW,  you step INTO the space of ALL THAT IS… 

Really take this in:

ALL. 

ALL. 

INFINITE. 

ALLNESS. 

By doing that you open yourself up to ALL that is available to you.

…so… you can finish off your session of reminding yourself of all that is right NOW in the following manner:

STOP.  BREATHE.  COME INTO THE NOW: 

Then self-talk:

"Yes, that income stream is gone and I don’t know what will happen, BUT… RIGHT NOW ALL IS WELL.  I’m alive. I’m breathing.  I have a happy healthy family.  My mother is taken care of.  We have food in the fridge.  Money in the bank.  Shelter over our heads.  Friends and family that love us.  A car.  Fulfilling work…. AND I’m willing to perceive and experience the perfect unfolding of the highest good right now.

…OR I’m willing to experience the perfect solution to our financial situation.

…OR I’m willing to (whatever you need to allow into your life – fill in the blank).

DISCIPLINE. 

KEEP COMING BACK TO THE NOW. 

THE REST WILL FOLLOW!

Choose Your  Reality! tm

Sonia