• I’m doing something wrong.
• The Law of Attraction doesn’t work.
• This is never going to work because I can’t stay “positive.” 
• I’m not doing “it” perfectly so, I need to “start over.”

These are all distortions and myths and it is these kinds of misunderstandings that really stop us form going beyond where we’ve gone before in our lives.

….So… here’s what happened.  If you’ve been keeping up with past blog posts and read “My Story,” you know that WHILE I’m experiencing all kinds of success in terms of life purpose and career, my personal life has been “challenging” to say the least.  (Between you, me and the entire cyber-Universe, if I could maintain a sense of professionalism and credibility WHILE describing the absurdity, pain and frustration that only a lusciously adequate stream of extreme profanity can do, I would…. But alas, only those in my inner-circle get a slice of “that” Sonia.  Suffice to say, I’m human like the rest of us.)

Anyway, the other day, I got a message from the mammogram folks.  I had just had my annual mammogram and they called me in to schedule “additional views”.  I knew this was a possibility because they told me sometimes they call people in if they can’t get a good read…. nothing to worry about.  Despite this calm pre-emptive reassurance from the technician, this voicemail sent me over the edge.

I got in my car on my way to go line dancing and I LOST IT.  I screamed at God.  I screamed at the Universe.  I screamed and screamed and gave myself full-on permission to “honor my emotions” (a very important concept necessary to prevent self-sabotage in the manifestation process… (Check out my book, “The Attraction Distraction,” if you need more on that.) 

I DOVE into self-pity, victim, not fair energy and had a hissy fit. 

I “tapped” on myself (I’m referring to EFT, a form of energy healing) the whole time I released.  I let it RIP. 

“Not fair!  Enough!  When is this going to be OVER??!!  Give me a (#@!*) break!  What more do you want from me!?  What enlightenment to you want me to reach!  I’m doing everything right!  Mom’s cancer! 4 years of care-giving!  Lawyers!  Divorce!  The dog died! And now you’re scaring me with the mammogram.  How much more (#@!^) can life pile on me!  COME ON!!!!

 

By the time I arrived at my destination, the stillness that comes with healthy emotional release came, followed by divine guidance.  (I’m telling you, if this concept is new to you, run a search in this blog on “Harnessing the Power of Your Emotions”)

This is what I heard:

“Sonia, this IS your life.  None of us gets to know how much time we have on earth.  You keep falling into “living for the future.”  When your mom was sick, you’d think, “When she passes, THEN I’ll get to live my life.”  When the home/business life/legal dispute earthquake erupted you thought, “When this is settled and we move, THEN I can live my life.”  When your marriage ended you began thinking, “When this divorce is over and I can start over, THEN I can live my life.”  Sonia, this IS your life.  Your life is now.

 

Then that familiar quote popped into my mind. 

“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass.  It is about learning to dance in the rain.”  Sonia, your spiritual opportunity and the solution to ALL your problems is to remember that God is Good.  And God is NOW.  Even in the midst of a life you’re not happy with.  Be here now.  Seek out the joy that is HERE.  NOW is all there is.”

I’m sure some will read this and think…. oooh, how profound.  And others will read this and say, “Yeah, how many more platitudes can you spew off?  I’ve heard it all before.  “

But that’s the thing.  Just because we know something intellectually, and just because we “thought” we got that concept before and were done, it doesn’t mean we don’t have the opportunity to remember it, go deeper with it, and GROCK it at a whole new level.

The Moral of the Story

My soul ASKED to know that God is my Source.  When I asked, it was given. 

It was given by REVEALING to me the places my consciousness still believes that any ELSE is my source – people, places or conditions in my external world.  Quite simply, yet quite profoundly:

God/Source is all there is. 

God/Source is HERE NOW. 

NOW is all there is. 

The more we can live in the NOW, acknowledge and give thanks for the WELL-BEING that is here now, the more that:

a) we are able to experience peace and joy, and

b) we manifest even MORE well-being, peace, joy, and abundance…. BECAUSE THAT is where our attention is and THAT is what is blessed and multiplied in our lives.

Okay then!  Was that messy enough for you?  (I have a whole ‘nother level of epiphany for you, too, but I’ll save that for the next post.)

Choose YOUR Reality! TM
Sonia : )

P.S.  All this, BTW, is where Success for the Soul(R) is going.  Of course, I’ll still provide great support to seekers who are relatively new to the Law of Attraction.  However, if you are ready for the next level of expansion, be on the look out.  The Manifestation Mastery Circle, a very unique group coaching program, will be available for a special group of 30 seekers and will come online this Fall.  Stay tuned for more info.  Meanwhile, if this conversation is grabbing you, check out the “Beyond the Law of Attraction: How to Let God Work Through You!” free summer audio series.  It will give you a taste of the new horizons Success for the Soul(R) is moving toward.

1) We are multi-dimensional beings and we operate from multiple levels of consciousness. 

2) Manifestation can be Magical AND it can be Messy!

Let’s talk about #1 today and #2 in the next post.

People think that just because they come up with a few intentional goals and focus on those goals, that THIS should be all they manifest in their lives.  BUT, we have an unconscious mind that emits a series of beliefs and emotions on a regular basis.  We also have a super-conscious or soul-mind with intentions we brought with us into this life.  It is not uncommon for us to be UNAWARE of the intentions (better said beliefs and expectations) of our unconscious mind, as well as our soul-mind.

So… as we go merrily along trying to manifest that which we want on a conscious level we may attract SOME of what we want, but may also attract some of what we don’t (or think we don’t).

Our job as conscious creators is to WELCOME ALL of it (rather than resist any of it) as an opportunity both to:

a) unearth the sabotaging effects of unconscious limiting beliefs so that we can dismantle them, transcend them, and bring more of ourselves into alignment with that which we consciously intend, and

b) reveal and explore our soul’s inspired intention (since our soul came to earth with our PURPOSE in hand) so that we can align our intentions with the grandest version of who we came here to be.

As we move more and more in the direction of ALIGNMENT – aligning ALL levels of consciousness we become more and more powerful manifestors.

So… for those of you who have wondered… Sonia, if you’re so good at manifesting, why does your life look like a mess these days (and believe me, it does!)?  Well…. it is because I’m going through the messy process of getting my conscious intention in alignment with my soul’s intention. 

You see, my soul had plans for me that are way bigger than I ever imagined.  As I began to own them the fullness of my soul’s intention for me, I’ve had to surrender to the alignment process.  And messy it has been….

More to follow!

Choose YOUR Reality! TM

Sonia

Check it out!  Here’s “The Attraction Distraction” with her Swedish and Polish sisters!  And Czechoslovakia is on the way – fun or what!!!?

And even more fun, I got an email from a seeker in Denmark who just read the book in her own language… she liked it, found it compelling, AND asked a question I get asked a lot…

What about karma?  What about destiny?  What about soul contracts?  In other words, who or what is REALLY in charge when it comes to manifesting?

I thought I’d insert a bit around this conversation here, because I’ve been getting these kinds of questions for a long time, but even more since I started to share “My Story” about all the adversity I’ve been navigating in my own life.

There is much to say on the topic, but I’ll make two short points and we can go deeper in the posts that follow…

1) We are multi-dimensional beings and we operate from multiple levels of consciousness. 

2) Manifestation can be Magical AND it can be Messy!

These are advanced manifestation concepts which I’m talking and teaching a lot about these days.

To begin exploring some of these ideas feel free to sign up for the free summer series I’m wrapping up this month entitled: “Beyond the Law of Attraction: How to Let God Work Through You!”

When you register you’ll have access to the audio from the first three Live calls.  And we have one more coming up this month if you’d like a shot at getting YOUR questions answered.  My gift to you, but you must register so we can get you the audios and updates.

Go to: http://www.successforthesoul.com/beyond-loa 

Choose YOUR Reality! TM

Sonia

P.S.  Also, here’s a sneak preview.  I’ll be launching the Manifestation Mastery Circle this fall – a year-long group coaching program limited to 30 people.  This is the next evolution BEYOND the Beyond the LOA tele-series.  Stay tuned!  (And if you really want to make sure to get the latest breaking news sign up at: http://www.successforthesoul.com/beyond-loa – you’ll be among the first to know the scoop!

In other words, when life happens… do we react or do we respond?

Do you allow that person, place or condition to determine whether you will feel good or bad, encouraged or discouraged, hopeful or hopeless, peaceful or anxious?

As some of you know, life has presented me with opportunities to go to a whole new level of mastery in the realm of manifestation.  Go to: www.successforthesoul.com/beyond-loa to get the scoop.  Suffice to say that after 4 years of caregiving for my dying mother, her death, earthquakes in home and business life and now a divorce… I’ve had the opportunity to go deeeeeeeep in asking myself, “What DO you believe, Sonia?” 

My beliefs have not waivered, but my understanding and integration of them have deepened profoundly. 

Most recently, I’ve had the opportunity to practice LOOKING BEYOND the circumstances of my life, to focus on the TRUE nature of reality.  So… instead of seeing giant legal bills, emotionally reactive emails from people in my inner circle, seeming delays, obstacles and surprises in my personal and professional life… instead of seeing all of these things as “signs”… signs that I’m “doing well” with manifesting or “doing bad” with my consciousness… I look BEYOND my physical reality.   I wake up in the morning and declare:

I AM UNMOVED BY APPEARANCES.  I SEE BEYOND THE ILLUSION TO GOD, MY SOURCE OF INIFINITE WELL-BEING AND ABUNDANCE.  I SEE, EXPERIENCE AND ALLOW DIVINE TRUTH INTO MY EXPERIENCE NOW.  I AM HOME NOW.

It is a discipline, no question.  And my human self takes care of me in human ways…. big giant melt-downs by myself and with good friends, lots of thinking out loud with confidants, eating, sleeping, walking, pedicures, laughter… heck, I’m going line dancing tomorrow night!

And yet, the spiritual self must be nourished too… with contemplation of the HIGHEST TRUTH, with meditation to allow divine guidance, and with the steady practice of faith.  I am birthing something very big.  There is evidence of it all around me.  The feedback I’m getting form seekers all over the world confirms this.  And yet… the birthing process can be painful, scary and downright messy.

But when the dream is called forth, conceived and given life… there’s no turning back. 

Just one more PUSH Sonia!

Anyway… I got off on a tangent… but I’ll leave it be because I know some of you will relate.  For those of you who don’t… go grab the audios.  This will all make more sense.  They are now available at: www.successforthesoul.com/beyond-loa – They are free and they are powerful!

Choose YOUR Reality! tm

Sonia

However, beliefs, emotions, and attachments can be a pretty tricky sometimes.  The truth is that a lot of what can sabotage our sincerest efforts lies at the unconscious level and this is where energy healing can really help.

I’ve been utilizing energy healing in my work as a life coach since 1996 and been a recipient of energy healing even longer.  Because I know how powerful it can be, I’m always looking at how to best offer it as a support service to my clients.

With that in mind I’m happy to announce:

“The Success for the Soul Laser Solutions Package”
A 3-session energy healing experience which
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And… because I wanted to make this as affordable as possible, I’m offering a special “Summer Break-Through Special Discount”

The first 30 PACKAGES are available at a two reduced rates. 

So, if energy healing is calling your name…. don’t hesitate.

To learn how energy healing can help you and read what many happy clients have to say, GO TO:

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Choose YOUR Reality!
Sonia

On this call I talked about how easy it is to let the world tell us what is possible.  People, circumstances, the media all tell us how it is… and what do we do?  WE AGREE.  Consciously or not, most of us simply agree, and allow ourselves to experience only what we can imagine.

The Law of Attraction is great and all, but let’s face it, all the “stuff” you seek to manifest, you do so for one reason:  because of how you “think” that stuff will make you feel.  Even if you DO manifest the stuff, and it makes you feel good, how long does the feeling last?

The truth is that eventually, you are faced with the opportunity to look BEYOND the stuff you want to manifest to the TRUTH of what you seek: Your Self.  The TRUTH of your SELF.  The TRUTH of who you really are.  And who you really are is BEYOND the you you see in the mirror.  It is the you that you sit with in the stillness, when there is no “stuff” to entertain you, distract you, or scare you.

Today was a rough day for me.  It was a day where I had to deal with lawyers and phone calls and emails and decisions around a legal dispute and my divorce.  Frankly, I got overwhelmed.  The “stuff of life” was looming big and scary.  My mind went on overdrive.  So, I called a bunch of friends till I reached one live.  Vented, cried and calmed down.

Then, when the kids went to bed, I sat in stillness.  Om Namah Shivayah. 

Came back to myself.

Went on the computer and guess what I found?  A prayer from Teresa of Avila, the mystic nun Carolyn Myss speaks of often.  For now, it is my new favorite prayer:

“Let nothing disturb you;
Let nothing frighten you.
All things are passing.
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things.
Nothing is wanting to him/her who possesses God.
God alone suffices.”

… Did you catch that?  “Nothing is wanting to him/her who possesses God.” 

When we focus on the Divine.  Think about the Divine.  Contemplate the Divine.  Declare our willingness to know the Divine… we commune with the Divine.  We remember our Oneness.  And when we do, ALL blessings can then grace our life.  Why?  Because the Law of Attraction makes it so.  Where our attention goes, the energy flows.  The Divine is Infinite LOVE, well-being, power, freedom and abundance…  When we look beyond the “stuff” to the true Source of all we desire, we ALLOW ourselves to remember and experience our oneness with ALL of it. 

Choose YOUR Reality! TM

Sonia

This is a very personal message from me to you, which I truly hope
you’ll take the time to read. It has turned out to be a bit long. I
hope you’ll print it out and read it over a cup of coffee or tea.
It seems that I’ve written this type of letter to you several times
in the past year and a half. The kind of letter that goes something
like… “Sorry I’ve been absent for a while, this is what’s been
happening, and… I’m back!” Well, for someone like me who has
identified a bit with herself on being the “pillar of strength” and
the “dependable one”, this recurring phenomenon has been a bit
frustrating to say the least.

And yet… now that I’ve been on this path where my only choice has
been to SURRENDER, ACCEPT, and ADAPT long enough to see a
bigger picture emerging, I’m here today to tell you that I have a
message for you. And that message is coming to you through the
experience of my life.

Before I get into the message, I’d like to give you some background
so that the message makes sense.

Anyone who has read my book or done any work through Success for
the Soul knows that I’ve prided myself on not only being able to
make my own dreams come true – big giant life dreams – but that I’m
pretty darn good at helping others make their dreams come true. And
the truth is that none of that has changed. Since 2002 my soul-mate
husband and I manifested an amazing life in wine-country Oregon, we
had two beautiful children after struggling with infertility, and I’d written
and published my dream book, which became a best-seller… to name
a few.

SIMULTANEOUSLY, life was presenting me with tremendous personal
challenges: In 2005 my mother had been diagnosed with lung cancer
and I became her primary caregiver for four years until she passed in
May of 2009. As I looked forward to healing and reclaiming my life,
extenuating circumstances triggered a series of “earthquakes” that
affected our sense of security and safety regarding our home life
(which, among other things included the joys of a legal dispute), and
most recently, in the wee hours of Easter Sunday morning, I discovered
that my marriage was ending, in a most shocking, unexpected and
painful way (by divorce not death).

At a time when my life’s work was taking off like a rocket, as Source
Energy was supporting me in reaching an international audience, as
new and improved coaching programs were coming on line… my
personal world was turned upside down.

As all spiritual beings living a human experience I had to give myself
the space to process the shock and pain. I was living a paradox…
part of me wanted the space and permission to make it all about
ME… to curl up into a fetal position, hide under the blankets and
disappear for a few months. While the grown-up part of me knew I
had to be strong for my children. I had clients who had entrusted
their hopes and dreams with me. I had financial responsibilities to
honor. I simply didn’t have the luxury to “go away”.

So, what did I do? I did what I’ve been doing, what I’ve been
teaching, and what I’ve been practicing for all these years. I turned
to Source. I turned to God. But I did it in a way and to a depth I’ve
never gone before. I turned it ALL over, really and truly ALL to God.
Every day. Every minute. Every care. Every question. Every decision.
Every concern. I turned over my need to know. My addiction t o
reasoning. My love of control. My desire for order. I turned over my
fears. My worry about the children. I turned over my business. My
clients. My finances. I turned over difficult conversations I needed
to have. It turned over my physical health and well-being.

I THOUGHT I had let God live my life for me and through me before.
But like this? Never.

With all of my God time, some things became clear very quickly.

Firstly, I KNEW WHY this was happening…

I HAD ASKED FOR IT.

You’re thinking to yourself WHAT?! How could you have possibly
asked for this? Well, this sort of thing happens ALL the time. We
set goals and intentions. We ask the Universe for change. But when
things DO change, we forget we asked for it! Not only that, but we
don’t like HOW the change is unfolding. We ask God for help, but
try to tell God how to do her job. (And don’t even THINK about
trusting God!)

As for me, what happened is that back in 2009 I had declared to the
Universe, “I want to KNOW that God is my Source. My ONLY. My
EVERY. My ALL! I want to get it at a cellular level, so that I no
longer have to try to convince myself of this. I want to move BEYOND
intellectual understanding to deep, spiritual KNOWING.”

So, what happened? I manifested the exact experiences I needed to
have no choice, but to turn to God for everything. Every external
structure in my life that I used to count on to feel safe and secure
was stripped away. With my mother’s illness, my freedom (my
ability to live life on my terms) was confiscated. When my home
life crumbled into a chaotic mess of conflict, threat, and
abandonment… the illusion that safety and security come through
external comforts vanished. And when my marriage ended, my
“religion of relationship”, and my earthly identity burned away to
ashes.

As a result, I was left with nothing but my relationship with and
trust in God. I knew I could be strong and loving for my children,
because there is just something super-human that gets activated
when a woman becomes a mother. But I had no idea how I could
possibly be present and helpful to my clients, let alone get
through each day. And yet, I had to. So, before each client
session, before each class, and before each Q&A session, I’d turn
everything over to God. I would say, “Okay God. The life-coach
formerly known as Sonia is no longer here. Work through me so
that I may serve this person in the highest way.”

I did this for EVERY single professional interaction and exchange,
and what happened was quite astounding. Not only would amazing
wisdom come through and my clients felt served, but I felt better.
Letting God work through me, FOR another, uplifted me. Of course I
alw ays knew about this phenomenon. But to experience it when it
took everything I had just to answer the telephone… this was a
whole new level.

And then… the feedback started coming in.

“Sonia, I don’t know what’s happened to you, but something is
different. I’ve never heard or felt you be so powerful.”

“Sonia, I got off the phone the other day crying, and I knew that I
had to have you as my coach for the rest of my life.”

And then… I started letting my clients know what had happened in
my life and the feedback continued.

“Sonia, I have no idea how, but what you’re bringing is more
inspiring, confident and clearer than I’ve ever heard from you.”

My response was always the same: I’m letting God work through me,
because there is nothing of “me” left.

Which brings me to why I’m writing this letter to you today:

As a result of this unfolding in my life, my work is changing. I
don’t know where it is going for sure, or for how long it will be
this way, but I’m clear about what I need to do right now. I
haven’t written an ezine or a blog post in two or more months.
Instead I’m being guided away from writing toward staying
connected with all of you in a more interactive, intimate way.
So… for a while, instead of providing my Soul Food electronic
newsletter as my primary way of offering tips, tools, inspiration
and information, I will be facilitating a Free LIVE Q&A Forum call
twice a month. This tele-conference series is called:

Beyond the Law of Attraction: How to Let God Work Through You

HERE ARE THE DETAILS:

What will happen on the calls?
The calls will be up to 60 minutes in length. I will begin by
delivering whatever inspired message seems to be coming through
at the time. (There’s a lot of that happening these days.) And then
I’ll open the lines up for Q&A. Anyone on the call can ask any
questions they have about personal success, healing,
transformation, manifestation, navigating the illusion that is our
physical experience here on earth, the law of attraction, letting
God work through you… things like that. My intention is and always
will be to answer questions and support those that are called to be
there in the highest way, as guided by Source.

Who Are These Calls For?

These Live Forums are for YOU, if…

• You feel a calling to something deeper or bigger in yourself or
  your life, but don’t know what that is or how to connect with it.
• You feel in your soul that life is about much more than
  “manifesting things” in your life.
• You read “My Story” about the unfolding experiences of my
  life in the past year-and-a-half and feel like you need to know
  more… (or my story resonates for you).
• You would like a chance to receive live support from me as a
  gift.
• You would like to connect with like-minded and like-hearted
  seekers.
• You’re curious.
• You feel that you’re supposed to be there.

What if I can’t make the times?
The calls will be recorded. Simply register by visiting the link
below. This will automatically place you on the email list which
we’ll use to send you the recordings when they are available. 
There is no obligation of any kind associated with registering. 
You’ll simply be on the mailing list which will update you
regarding the dates, times, telephone numbers and pass-
codes you’ll need to get on the call.

The first call is scheduled for Thursday, June 24th at 1:00pm
PACIFIC STANDARD TIME.  A tentative call schedule for future
dates will go out as soon as possible.

Please join us for “BEYOND the Law of Attraction: How to Let God
Work Through You”, by registering at:
http://www.successforthesoul.com/beyond-loa/

How long will this series last?  Will the audios be available later?
I have no idea.  This is an entirely new way of working for me.  I
hope you’ll join me in this glorious adventure!

What if I have other questions?
Please click on the link below for the full scoop. If you have
additional questions, my admin team would be very happy to help
you!

Email:  CustomerCare@SuccessfortheSoul.com
Phone: 503-961-1228

I hope you’ll join me and the like-minded seekers that you are
meant to connect with through this experience.

Beyond the Law of At traction: How to Let God Work Through You

Choose YOUR Reality! TM
Sonia : )

Anyhoo, I’m back and the tele-series was a huge success! Over 600 people all over the world registered to explore and activate their innate genius as the creators of their lives through 3 powerful tele-classes and 2 bonus Q&A sessions… And for 31 inspired seekers (so far) a calling emerged to go to their next level: The Ultimate Manifestation System Intensive begins in 5 days and an AMAZING group of like-minded individuals are gathering for a six month manifestation journey!

You know the saying, We teach what we have to learn.?  Well, that certainly goes for me. And teaching this class has once again expanded my life! (I just signed my third foreign book rights contract! Denmark, Poland and now Czechoslovakia!)  Wahoo! 

I love this stuff and would LOVE to share with you all that I know that works in manifesting your big life dreams!

Choose YOUR Reality! TM
Sonia

Wow!  Sorry I’ve been soooo out of touch on the blog front.  I’ve been teaching the Ultimate Manifestation Tele-series, since January and it has required a huge burst of creative energy!  Much more than I expected… turns out I didn’t have much energy (or time) left for writing.

But I’m coming back on line… both for blogging and my ezine soon… and I look forward to bringing some new manifesting food for thought with the rejuvenating energy of SPRING on the horizon.

Meanwhile, if you missed it, you can still get the audio recordings for the tele-series for a limited time.  The mp3 recordings will be available until I start my Ultimate Manifestation System Intensive in April (used to be boot camp).

So, if you’d like to take advantage of this VERY CONTENT RICH learning opportunities simply to to: http://www.UltimateManifestClass.com, REGISTER at the bottom of the information page, and your recordings will be delivered via email almost immediately.

The feedback has been so gratifying.  People are learning, applying and manifesting already!

Choose YOUR Reality! TM

Sonia

The mind is a tricky thing.  When you identify an goal, dream or intention, it SO MUCH wants to immediately figure out HOW.  How to do it.  When it is going to happen… All the details.

BUT, when you get caught up in the how, you muck up the process.  You actually get in the way of the magic.

Yes, the HOW has to be addressed, but not by your figuring it out. 

Your job is to focus on WHAT you want.

The Universe handles the HOWS, by sending you breadcrumbs to follow.

THEN your job is to follow and ACT on the breadcrumbs in trust, letting go of attachment about WHAT happens with each breadcrumb, how it fits into the equation. 

The breadcrumbs WILL get you there.  It really is about letting the Universe lead you by the hand.  But you don’t get to control the journey.

Today’s Note from the Universe says it all.  (It is actually what inspired this post.)

Enjoy!

And…

Choose YOUR Reality! TM

Sonia

FROM Mike Dooley’s www.TUT.com:

“First, Sonia, completely forget about who, how, and when. Then, decide only upon what you want, the end result, with as much clarity as possible. I’ll shuffle the deck, the magic show will begin, and jokers won’t be all that are wild.

Gosh, you’re so much fun to watch when you read these things.

Deal,
The Universe”

P.S.  Want to learn more about how to make the how manifestation process work in YOUR life?  Join me in the now-in-progress f.r.e.e. 3-part course I’m teaching: http://www.ultimatemanifestclass.com.  (MP3 audio recordings of missed classes are delivered via email as soon as you register.)