Please join me as I talk with Law of Attraction Expert and Radio host, Natasha Abudarham (all the way in Belgium!) on Monday, January 11th at 10:00am PACIFIC STANDARD TIME.

We’ll be talking about my favorite subject:  Why the Law of Attraction ISN’T working for you and how to get results, finally!

You can tune in LIVE by going to: http://www.LOAradioNetwork.com/natasha-abudarham.html.  And of course the show will be downloadable thereafter.

On a personal note, I met Natasha through our wonderful the-world-is-now-so-small internet technology, when she emailed me to ask if I’d be on the show.  Well!  It just so happens that we met in person at Lisa Sasevich’s Big Life Event in San Diego and had and INSTANT connection.  She’s so wonderful, fun, lively and powerful.  I hope you’ll take the opportunity to tune in to her wonderful life force!

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Christine has utilized numerous Success for the Soul services over the past few years to keep growing, expanding and making her dreams come true. For long-time Soul Food and blog subscribers you may remember her from when she left an unsatisfying job in corporate America to open her dream consignment store (click here to read an earlier success story).

More recently Christine completed her six month group coaching commitment (a predecessor program to the Ultimate Manifestation System Boot Camp) and we celebrated together a whole new level of success, fulfillment and growth!

“Sonia, in the past six months I have learned so much! With Source as my source, I can live and experience peace, love, joy and hope in the face of the same situations that were causing the constant anxiety. I’m living from flow, faith and joy which allows me to let go of attachment to specific outcomes. There is a shift in the way I am holding money – I’m more relaxed about and more trusting that there will always be enough.

As a result all sorts of abundance has manifested in my life and in my business! I found 2 great employees that are perfect for my business. I’m now able to spend 2 ½ days out of the store every week, with a lot more flexibility in my schedule.  Had 2 wildly successful events in my store. Am now paying myself from SISTERS earnings (a big milestone for any new business venture!). Took 6 trips away since January. And I have more connection to my community through events and joining women’s club.

My work with you has helped me grow into a new way of “being.” I feel more peaceful and joyful. I’m much more relaxed about my business, trusting that source is providing. And I live from a new place of service, feeling grateful all the time!

I can’t thank you enough Sonia! I so look forward to continuing the journey with you and allowing the next level of abundance to flow through and expand my life freely!”

Christine Johnson, Proprietor
SISTERS Consignment Couture
Sonoma, California, USA

If you’d like to learn more about how Success for the Soul can help you make your dreams come true, contact Executive Manager, Chris at Chris@Successforthesoul.com or 503-961-1228.
Please note: There are just a few 2009 private coaching slots left before the programs and fee structures change for 2010. We are currently accepting applications for a very limited number of complimentary Get to Know sessions with Sonia. Contact Chris for more information.

Helene (name changed to maintain confidentiality) came to me ready to do her next level of healing work after a huge and challenging time of transition in her life. She had been suspended from her profession in the medical field after taking responsibility for a substance abuse problem. Now clean and sober (for 6 months) she was ready to discover a new level of well-being and creative power within her.

Helene’s goals as a Transformation Private Coaching Client included:

• To heal her body after a life-time of pain,
• Find inner peace, and
• Know her true purpose… all so she could ultimately move on to create the next chapter of her life from a place of wholeness, purpose and empowerment.

Although our work did not look the way she thought it would (it rarely does!), with trust and consistency she experienced powerful break-throughs and recently shared the following with me in her pre-session check-in form:

“I am inspired by endless synchronicities that keep me positive that I am on the best path for my Self right now. That this IS my purpose. I am inspired from somewhere to shop and eat more healthy foods and walk every day NO MATTER WHAT!!!

My energy is up! My body is healing. My mind and soul are merging to become focused and true. My entire life feels better since beginning with you. I am discovering a strength I am already in possession of – I must only claim it – that is amazing and ever present.

I am progressing in the ability to speak my truth to myself and to others. I am successful in listening to my Self and Source and responding from there rather than reacting to life situations. I am finding my Peace for more and more of each day. I am excited about this day and the days to come. That’s new for me.”

If you’d like to learn more about how Success for the Soul can help you make your dreams come true, contact Executive Manager, Chris at Chris@Successforthesoul.com.

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There I found my tribe!  A group of like-minded and like-hearted spiritually-oriented entrepreneurs who seek to live their higher-purpose as changed agents, while exemplifying that one can give, serve and help others  WHILE being personally successful and fulfilled.  As a matter of fact, people who want to help others MUST be really good at with regard to self-care, finances and everything else.  Why? Because if you sacrifice your own well-being in the name of helping others, you can’t help others very well for very long, can you?  If your business isn’t profitable, if you can’t pay the bills, if you’re doing everything by yourself and that costs you health and time with your family… aren’t you defeating the purpose?

So, I invested in myself and my work by joining Lisa’s SASSY Mastermind Group.  SASSY is a play on Sasevich AND S.A.S. which is what we learn about: Sales, Authenticity and Success.  You see… one of the things spiritually-oriented professionals struggle with is how to share what they do, get paid appropriately WHILE remaining authentic and not feeling “salesy”… hence, SASSY!

Anyway… as a result of joining this mastermind, I’ve now begun to meet an extra-ordinary group of people.

I just met Veronica Karaman on our forum, and in a short time she has really impressed me!  Veronica offers a unique and eclectic blend of expertise: life coach, professional golfer, minister and relationship healer.  In getting to know her I learned of a free tele-class that really helps people absolutely have a different a positive experience with family members over the holidays.

After reading about her story and only listening to half of the audio, I KNEW I needed to let you know about it. 

This resource is a gem and Veronica teaches from personal experience and a wonderful well-spring of wisdom.

Check it out!

www.freshfamilyjoy.com

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Sonia

Overwhelming Emotions… But Oh So Worth It!

Peggy, one of my private coaching clients has been on the powerful journey of owning and being supported in manifesting her big dreams of right livelihood, prosperity and the relationship of her dreams. Having ridden an emotional rollercoaster this past year, she recently shared some of the big breakthroughs occurring in her life.  A good reminder that realizing your dreams requires courage, commitment and perseverance… but it’s oh so worth it!

“I feel like things / energies are moving for me into the right direction. However, there has been so much movement it has been somewhat overwhelming. I feel like so many thoughts are going through my head and lots of different emotions are flying around.

There have been so many things that have occurred / changed /manifested! !!

There were position eliminations in my department and my position was eliminated, BUT I have the option of taking another position (in salary and title) with the company. If I choose to leave the company, I get a package worth about five months of my current salary. So this feels like an ideal situation.

My previous manager has reached out to me and offered to set me up with interviews / meetings at his new company, a very prestigious firm.

I found a position at a company in my dream industry that I believe I am very very qualified for; I am in the process of applying.

Had a lovely week with a friend of a friend. Meeting a lot of men.  Having opportunities to date…”

Peggy W.
Financial Analyst
Massachusetts, USA

I have just a handful of openings left in my private coaching schedule.  For a limited time, if you’d like to learn more about how private coaching can help you to manifest YOUR big dreams, you may apply for a complimentary Get to Know the Success of Your  Soul one-on-one session with me.  This is a highly powerful process that will help you get very clear about your next steps.  Contact Executive Manger, Chris at Chris@SuccessfortheSoul.com for more information.

To start at the beginning go to: http://successforthesoul.com/law-of-attraction-magnify-your-receiving/875/ or scroll back to the September 18, 2009 post.

THE RIGHT TOOLS FOR MAGNIFYING YOUR RECEIVING

All of the tools in your tool box are mental and spiritual disciplines.  I’ve come up with 7 tools for you to practice, practice, practice.  To the degree that you embrace them is the degree that you will remain in the most open and receptive state possible to allow all that you desire into your experience.  If you’re not used to these disciplines, you will definitely have to take my word for it and go on faith.  But after you’ve had enough experience watching the positive unfold despite seeming conditions to the contrary, you’ll see exactly how powerful these tools can be.

To be most effective you have to take on the attitude of “I can’t afford NOT to practice these tools.”  If I’m lazy or bratty about it, I will only continue to get what I’ve always gotten.

7 Tools to Magnify Receiving
1)    Become Obsessed with finding ways to feel good!
2)    Remember Source (God, Universe, Spirit, The Divine, etc.) FIRST.
3)    Suspend Judgment – i.e. Remember Source is Good All the Time
4)    Keep Your Power by turning the other cheek to undesired conditions, circumstances, and nay-sayers.  
5)    Build Your Cheerleading Team
6)    Practice Gratitude!
7)    Practice Being in the NOW and Remembering that All is Well!

Keep coming back for an in-depth explanation of each of these tools.

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Most recently, I’ve been addressing “Letting Go” in depth in my Ultimate Manifestation System Boot Camp and in my own personal life. I’m having the opportunity to practice what I preach at a level I haven’t had to stretch to in a long time.

Sometimes we have to let go because things are NOT going our way.  Sometimes we have to let go because things ARE going our way and we get so excited that we start to want to control everything!  Well, I’m glad to say that in my own life, the latter is happening.  The stars seem to be lining up and a number of things I’ve longed for, wished for, prayed for and visualized for are gelling.  There is REAL PROGRESS and movement emerging.  And with the excitement comes fear, nervousness, and antsy anticipation.  What is a seeker to do when their dreams ARE coming true?  KEEP LETTING GO!

And so, I’ve been leaning on one of my my favorite prayers.  It was written for me by Reverend Cheri, who at the time was at the Living Enrichment Center (no longer exists and I don’t know her last name to credit her appropriately).  In a time of great challenge she gave me this prayer to use in my relationship with my mother.

I have always used it for relationship challenges, but most recently I’ve been using it for situations and decisions. 

I find it incredibly powerful! 

I always take some deep relaxing breaths before I start.

And I read each line slowly… really taking in the feeling and the meaning.

Just fill in the blanks with the person or situation you need help with. 

The prayer REALLY helps me to let go of control, surrender, and trust in the highest good!

Joyfully, I share it with you:

(I’ve modified it to neutralize religious references.  Feel free to adapt it as feels right for you.

The word “her” is used in the prayer, but you can replace “her” with “him” or “this”.)

The Divine* Presence stills my mind and emotions.

I am calm and at peace.

I breathe into the Presence of divine Love and Light,

and know that God provides for my every need.

I am loved.

As I feel the peace of spirit deep within my soul,

I send blessings of love, light, harmony, peace and joy to

(person’s name or situation).

Willing, I release her into the tender care of the Infinite,

trusting God to guide me in all of my actions and reactions with her,

and to guide her to her highest good.

I give thanks for this precious gift of life, and for the gifts that
(person/situation) brings to me.

And so it is.

Amen

May this prayer help you, soothe you, and guide you as it has me.

For more support around Letting Go, search on “letting go” within this web site (in the purple header above) or check out my book, “The Attraction Distraction: Why the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working for You and How to Get Results – Finally!”

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Self-inquiry in and of itself is a powerful thing, but add to it the input and perceptions of fellow seekers that you’re willing to risk trusting and POOF – you’ve just taken a quantum leap into the world of self-discovery. 

I LOVE the group dynamic for growth and learning.  This is pretty hysterical given that at my first group I told everyone, “I don’t even know why I’m here.  I set goals and make them happen on my own.”  (read: “I don’t need you!”)

Well, obviously a part of me did need them because no matter what I tried, I wasn’t getting the results I wanted.  (Back then it had to do with learning how to have a successful relationship with a man.)

But, once the group cracked my shell of self-sufficiency, I learned that yes, I can make things happen by myself, but why would I?  It is so much easier when you let people help you!  Kind of like the difference between walking and flying.  Now-a-days the “Mastermind Group” is a popular format for tapping into the power of the group.  There are also countless support groups available for just about any topic in life: substance abuse, grief, dating, business… you name it, there is a probably a support group.  And then there are always groups that are structured around a curriculum, such as with group coaching, classes and teleseminars with forums.  I use the power of the group during my Q&A sessions for my Ultimate Manifestation System Boot Camp.  It never ceases to amaze me how much people get from each other!

In all of my years of “doing” personal growth work in group settings, one of my favorite activities included sitting around in a circle and having the “leader” ask a question that everyone had to answer.
Many times the questions consisted of something I’d never thought about before, much less asked myself. As a result, when answers emerged, I’d learn something new. And of course, listening to other people’s answers never failed to expand my consciousness or help me go deeper in knowing myself.

Lately I’ve felt inspired to create a list of such questions. I’d love your help! Below are a few of my favorites. Feel free to contemplate upon them for yourself and above all else, if you have some new ones to add PLEASE DO!

BTW, these questions are not about gathering trivial facts. These questions are supposed to reveal something about you – both to yourself and others. (Although I’d really love to know what your favorite cheese is, that’s not what I’m getting at here : )

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE QUESTION?

• What are you trying to prove?
• What are the 3 biggest defining events of your life?
• What are your top 3 favorite qualities about yourself?
• What do you struggle most to accept about yourself?
• Who are you?
• What job/profession would you most hate to do?
• What profession other than your current one would you most like to try?
• What’s your secret talent?
• What do you stand for?
• What do you believe in?
• What do you want to see end in your life time?
• If you were an animal (other than human) what would you be and why?
• What 3 people are your greatest inspiration?
• Which people in your life bring out your best? How?
• Would you rather be liked or respected?  Why?
• What holds you back?
• Think about a person you really struggle with?  How is he/she a reflection of you, that part of yourself you do not accept?

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I am compelled now more than ever to find a way to serve and the Universe has been sending me ALL KINDS of inspiring ideas about just how to do that.  I’ll be talking to my mentor/coach this week to run things by her and do more brainstorming and will keep you all posted.

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However, I’m called to talk about… rather ask about… something else – women who are tired of being and feeling alone.  Maybe this isn’t a total departure, but an interesting springboard… as I look at the ultimate joy and celebration and marriage that many women seek… I think about the women who feel very far away from that experience.

This is not out of the blue.  In the last two months, thoughts of single women who feel “on their own” in life and in the world have been tapping on my inner brain.

I think in part because I have female family members that fall into this category and I’ve recently been drawn into really trying to imagine what it would be like – at 40 to have never (that I know of) been in a successful relationship with a man.  And a few clients in their 50’s who, although they’ve dated and even been married, at this stage in their lives they find themselves on their own, really having to take care of themselves, no companion, but also not much of a sense of deep belonging  – not with family, not with friends, not with community.  Or my mother, who was widowed at 48 and lived the rest of her life (24 years) without a companion.

I remember when I was single.  I remember a deep loneliness that I ultimately discovered had been the persistent pain I had been stuffing down with Bulimia.  I remember the personal growth work I needed to do to come to peace with aloneness, to understand how to relate to my loneliness in a more powerful way, the mindset shifts I had to make about being strong, being vulnerable, being needy, and being open and receptive to other forms of love and support…

I’ve been married to my husband happily for 14 years (together 17), with two beautiful children.  We having loving supportive friends, family and community.  The woman alone in the world is no longer my reality or anything I have to deal with.  At least right now, this is joyfully true.  And yet, I’ve very aware that life by nature is change.  Children grow up and move out.  People live, people die.  I’ve accompanied more than one client through painful divorce, death of a spouse, empty nest syndromes. 

But, even with the current abundance of relationships during this chapter of my life, sometimes loneliness still shows up.  The difference today is that I know what it is really about (afterall, it can’t be about how many people are my life, right?), I know how to listen when loneliness knocks on my door, and I know how to nurture MYSELF to feel “not lonely” again. 

What’s the  point of my inner ponderings?

I’m thinking I want to help women who relate to this?

I’m wondering if there is a need out there?

Do you struggle with being alone or lonely? 

Do you know anyone who does? 

Do you have questions you’re seeking answers to about how to change things? 

Is there some way I could help you? 

I wonder if the Universe is nudging me to put some kind of a class or group together.

Please, if this resonates for you, write me.  Let me know what kind of support or class or information you’d like to see offered?

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Sonia