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Law of Attraction – Creating Our Reality Does NOT Mean Controlling It
By Sonia Miller | June 26, 2009
I finally found a word to describe how I’m feeling and what I’m doing since my mom passed away on May 15th. I’m unwinding. As her caregiver for four years, even when I wasn’t “doing” stuff for her, my mind was preoccupied.
I did a lot of things “right” in caring for her and caring for myself while I was caring for her.
I slept.
I ate.
I asked for help.
I received help.
I’d set intentions.
I’d meditate.
I’d exercise when I could.
I’d read helpful books.
I’d open my heart.
I’d set boundaries.
I’d feel my feelings……
And yet, the one thing I couldn’t do was ELIMINATE the fact that my mom was battling cancer and I was her caregiver. It was among the hardest things I’ve ever gone through and it was stressful no matter how you sliced it. I would have LOVED to create a very different reality, but hard as I might, I couldn’t. I wanted control over everything and I had control over nothing!
As I find myself unwinding, I find myself experiencing S-P-A-C-E in my life in ways I haven’t for a long time. Space to be. Space to have nothing vying for attention in my brain. Space to be spontaneous. Space to rest. Space to catch up on the mundane. And in the space, I’m feeling things I haven’t had the space to feel in a long time. Loneliness for one. I realized the other day that I have no social life. And I haven’t for a looooong time. So, with that awareness, I’ve become clear about some new intentions. To reconnect with friends and make new ones. What a happy thought!
Anyway, I digress… what I wanted to share is that in these spaces, I reconnected with an important Law of Attraction concept. And it relates to one of the biggest distortions out there. It goes something like this: Just because we’re told that we “create our reality” does NOT mean that we get to CONTROL our reality. We don’t.
Just like we don’t get to control what the economy is doing, what world leaders are doing, what the weather is doing, or what our loved ones (or enemies for that matter) are doing, we also don’t get to control how blessings manifest in our lives, small and large, how miracles occur, or how the Universe orchestrates things better than we could ever imagine.
Creating our reality is about CHOOSING how we will RELATE to what the Universe is giving us at any given moment. There will always be events and conditions we’d rather NOT experience. Our power, however, is not decided by whether or not we can determine a certain outcome (i.e. get control over the situation).
Instead, our power as co-creators comes from…
1) ACCEPTING what is (i.e. releasing any resistance that might give an unwanted situation more life)
2) SUSPENDING JUDGMENT (i.e. rather than labeling something as “bad,” we tell ourselves, “It is not good, it is not bad. It simply is what it is.”)
3) REMAINING OPEN AND TRUSTING THAT THERE IS GOOD HERE (… because Source is ALL-GOODNESS and Source is All-That-Is. Therefore there MUST be GOOD here.)
4) ALLOWING THE GOOD TO BE REVEALED… and when it does…
5) GIVE GRATEFUL THANKS!
THIS is how we create our reality!
Choose YOURS – okay?
Sonia
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June 26th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
I am sorry to hear of your mother’s passing Sonia. We are co-creators; we generate generate thoughts and feelings, the Universe responds in the besy way it sees fit. This way may or may not be to our liking, but as you said, we should suspend judgement.
The only thing which we do control is our thoughts. That alone is enough. Ryan
June 26th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Thanks so much. This is just what I needed to hear today.
June 26th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
Thank you Ryan. Yes, you’re right. All of our power lies in being SELF responsible! Blessings, Sonia ; )
June 26th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
You’re welcome. So glad it was helpful! Blessings,
Sonia
June 26th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Beloved Sonia,
Thank you so much for sharing this deep, intimate experience and your realizations from the situation.
We share your feelings for the great loss of your mother.
You wrote that we can only choose how we relate, that we create the reality but can’t control it.
Well,
By creating a reality, you actually control it, otherwise you would not have created it in the first place.
The inner conflict as we see it, is more because you relate to your mother passing away as YOUR experience and reality, when it is not! It was HER reality even though you are related.
This is really tough to realize. It affects our relationship with our partners, children and other closely related people.
Their reality is their reality. Period.
Our suffering, is when we take their reality which is manifested in our surroundings to be ours.
Naturally, it is most difficult to be realized when someone beloved suffers.
Hugging you,
Ben & Efrat.
June 26th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
Dear Ben and Efrat,
Thank you so much for this profound comment. Ah yes! You’re writing about the very highest truth! My mom was going through HER experience in MY surroundings. And yet my role as her caregiver was indeed MY reality. The eternal opportunity BE a spiritual being while living a human experience. Blessings, Sonia
June 29th, 2009 at 4:09 am
Very sorry for the diffiicult time you have gone thru my condolonces sincerally to you in this sad time, however your blog is something beautiful and special and thank u very much for sharing it with us all here, it was a bless me and my crew http://www.CostaRicaHQ.com/blog shall be moved by these words thanks
July 8th, 2009 at 7:07 pm
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July 25th, 2009 at 8:16 am
Dear Mark,
Thank you so much for you kind thoughts and words. I so apprecaite it and am touched if my blog is a contribution to others.
Blessings,
Sonia