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The Law of Attraction and Relationships – Pitfall #4
By Sonia Miller | February 7, 2008
Pitfall #4 addresses the issue of whether you are self focused vs. other focused in your relationships. Although it is important to be clear about what you want in relationship, it is just as important to understand what desires are healthy and which ones are counter productive.
The most expansive and empowering types of relationships are those where you strive to bring your Self fully. Where you seek less to have someone else meet your needs and strive more to see how you can give of yourself, freely, fully and authentically.
A common pitfall occurs when people seek out relationships to meet their personal needs. From a Law of Attraction perspective this sets you up for self sabotage because you are telling the Universe. “I don’t have this thing (i.e. love, support, validation) within me, so I will look for it in someone else. The problem is that if you tell the Universe you don’t have something, because like attracts like, you will attract more of the experience of not having.
In this regard it is much more productive to look to fulfill your needs in your relationship with yourself. As you strive to bring yourself as a whole person, identifying who you are, who you want to be, and how you can share that in a relationship, then you will attract more of the experience of having – first in your relationship with your self and then naturally in all of your relationship experiences.
This concept dovetails nicely with the another pitfall which occurs when we look to get vs. give in our relationships. The more you practice giving in your relationships, the more the abundance comes back to you expanded. It must, thanks to the Law of Attraction. When you express HAVING something by giving it, you’ll attract more of the experience of HAVING rather than wanting.
Choose Your Reality! tm
Sonia
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